Written By Itoro E. Udofia

Any new mom will confirm that the transition to motherhood is exhilarating, emotional, and exhausting. It is critical for the well-being of new mothers that they are surrounded by individuals who provide practical and emotional support.

The familiar African proverb “It takes a village to raise a child”, speaks to the benefits of parenting within the context of community.

Women can identify their tribe amongst family and friends by being intentional with their relationships. Three characteristics to begin with are:

1. Similar Values

Clarity about what you value is necessary and choosing individuals with similar values essential. Who you connect with reinforces who you are.

2. Authentic Experiences

Time spent and true connection with individuals enhances your capacity to be vulnerable. Who you trust you are more willing to depend on.

3. Effective Collaboration

Actions by individuals that align with your vision of family is reliable and should be sought after. Who you work well with you can delegate to.

Support looks different for everyone. Communicating needs and expectations takes courage. While new mothers transition into their role they can be empowered by their tribe of family and friends. If it takes a village to raise a child, women can be wise and intentional with building that village.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor; If either of them falls down one can help the other up." -Ecclesiastes 4:9

"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken" -Ecclesiastes 4 :12